Are you a giver or a taker? | Adam Grant


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In every workplace, there are three basic kinds of people: givers, takers and matchers. Organizational psychologist breaks down these personalities and offers simple strategies to promote a culture of generosity and keep self-serving employees from taking more than their share.

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32 Replies to “Are you a giver or a taker? | Adam Grant”

  1. No doubt the studies were done on big organisations and only assessed the people fairly high up the ranks, for example the pencil pushers in the construction industry and so it's not transferable data. I realise this guy is smart and has done a lot of research and work but at the end of the day on the receiving end all we have to go off is his word which just happens to paint a picture perfect ideal, a simplistic model based on extremely vague terms and buzzwords like 'givers' and 'takers'

  2. I'm a textbook example of a disagreeable giver and I don't seem to get anywhere in life 🙁 I tried to be more agreeable but it just seems so terribly fake to me and it costs me tremendous amounts of energy. Any tips for a poor soul?

  3. Who else is having a hard time telling what they are. I'm most likely a matcher, but I like helping people and giving my time just for the benefit of others, but I'm also incredibly selfish conceited and manipulative.

  4. I'm fine being a giver, heck, I could say it's one of the things I most like about myself.
    I don't feel compelled to ask for help, in fact having to ask for – or receiving unwanted help makes me extremely uncomfortable. And I'm completely fine with that. I have taken many personality tests and always test as extremely Introverted (<80% Introversion) and extremely Assertive (~=90% Assertion) so maybe that's part of it. I have been in many unhealthy relationships and hard situations, I have often felt exploited, especially due to my willingness to give the benefit of the doubt, but it never phased me and I have never experienced "burnout". Again, not sure if this is common or if it's just me. It does feel really taxing at times to be honest but I don't think it could ever shake anyone's core principals.

  5. I'd say I'm a Giver, not because I consider myself to be a good person, but because I'm a perfectionist to the point where it gets a bit obsessive, and many times that fact has led me to do all the work by myself. I need to feel like I have everything under control, even stuff that doesn't necessarily affect me directly.

    For example: if I'm doing a group presentation, I'm willing to prepare my classmate's speeches as well because I want the presentation to be perfect, not just my part.

    I always end up feeling exhausted, but i know that if I don't do it that way I'd feel even worse because I know I could've done better.

  6. I enjoyed this great topic which quickly turned into a corporate streamlined "all for one and one for all," puff piece. My favorite parts though were the long unnecessary pauses followed by nasally inhalation. BEST TED TALK EVER! So helpful it made me want to stab my eardrums out every time he took a breath. Damn Mesophonia!